I am worried that my child will become homesick.
You know your child better than anyone else does, but there are some general
guidelines that can be helpful to both you and your child.
Involve your child in planning for a camp experience—from choosing the
camp to packing for the trip.
Encourage your child to talk about ALL the feelings he/she has relating
to camp. Don't belittle his/her concerns or try to pass them off by saying
"It'll be o.k." Simply acknowledge all the emotions shared.
Be realistic and talk about how natural it is to feel homesick or sad
sometimes and happy and excited at other times. Give your child a
"homesickness toolkit" that can help him/her deal with these
emotions. Encourage the child to expect the sad moments to pass and help
him/her understand how to help them pass more quickly: tell your counselor
or a friend how your feel, then deliberately focus on something that makes
you feel better.
Depending on the age, your child may want to take a special reminder of
home, like a family photograph, a favorite stuffed animal or other reminder.
Visiting the camp facility beforehand can be comforting to some children
(and parents).
If your child is old enough to write home, help your child pre-address
some stamped postcards to take with them for mailing to friends and family
members while he/she is at camp.
Do not tell your child that you will come and get him/her if he/she
becomes unhappy. Neither tell them that they will have to stay there, no
matter what. If your child becomes concerned before leaving, tell them
that counselors there will be able to help them with any problems they have,
including feelings of homesickness.
Try and arrange for your child to attend camp with a friend so that the
two can support each other.
Send an encouraging letter to your child at camp and have it waiting for
him/her before arrival. Express your confidence in his/her ability to handle
this new and exciting experience. Tell them you are looking forward to
hearing all about the fun they will have during the week. You may want to
tell them you are planning a special homecoming meal to celebrate this
milestone.
PLEASE DO NOT call your child to tell him/her that you miss them. Neither
should you tell the child what fun things you are doing while they are
away. If your child calls you asking to come home early, talk honestly
with the counselor and ask for his/her evaluation of your child's situation.
Always acknowledge your child's feelings with respect. You may want to give
them an option such as seeing how they feel in 24 or 48 hours before
considering an early departure. Go over the items in his/her
"homesickness toolkit".
If you are upset or disappointed by your child's feelings, please do not
let your child know. Some children are ready for a camp experience sooner
than others. Some may never be entirely comfortable. It is best not to make
a "big deal" over it.
Remember, camp can be a positive experience in your child's maturing
process. It can increase confidence and self-esteem, help your child
"learn how to learn" as well as develop specific skills, encourage
the development of new relationships, and provide memories for a
lifetime!
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